I had a preacher tell me one time, "If I spit on you all I did was make you wet, you made yourself mad."
It took a while for me to fully understand that concept, but in the end he was exactly right. It is our choice on how we want to handle the things we face every day.
Last weekend I ended up cooking at two different chili cook offs. This makes two weekends in a row we have doubled up and cooked both days and boy let me tell you, we are dog tired.
On Saturday the wife got first place and I got third, Sunday I got seventh and the wife didn't even place. I don't really understand that one, but I guess it's like the roll of the dice.
We all had a real good time, some more than others and I guess I was one of those who was having the best time. They said all together by the end of the weekend I offended or pist off at least a dozen people. Not on purpose of course, but because I don't have a filter when I talk. This could be one reason I don't like large crowds or strange people because in general folks are way too sensitive.
If you are going to call yourself fat and I agree, then why do you get mad at me? Your the one who said it first, I was just being nice and agreeing with you.
"You have no filter what so ever!" The wife says to me.
I had one nice lady criticize me because I was using meat in my chili and that I should not be killing animals to eat. Then turn right around and ask if she killed her ex-husband if I would grind him up and use that meat as well. I simply apologized for her getting old and not being able to keep her husband at home even after he bought all that plastic surgery she had and that she should not hate all men because of him. I guess it was true because I hit a nerve with her, but it was really funny.
I also know a lot of folks that dish it out, but can't take it in return, I spoke with some this weekend. I was just playing along, but some say I crossed some sort of line when in my own mind it was funny. If you can't take it then sit there with your mouth shut and nobody will give it to ya. Good heavens, my friends all know me and if you get all swole up with your feelings hurt over something I say out of fun and sit there in the corner looking like a bull frog then you might not should have been taking the jabs when you did. I guess my problem is I don't know when to stop and then have to do some damage control later on.
In my anger management class I found out that it's true, I am the one that makes myself mad. I try and not give that power to anyone anymore. If I want to be mad I can find a way real easy to do it and I don't need much help in it either.
So if you spit on me you do make me wet, but you better be ready to get into a spitting contest and keep in mind, I chew tobacco.
Sorry for rant here, but in the end it's all fun and games, or until someone gets their feelings hurt first.